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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Getting back on topic  :lol:

I never expected to be a SAHM but then DH got a great offer from his company to transfer to an overseas office. I had just had my first child so it seemed like a good opportunity to take a year or so off before returning to the workforce. Flash forward ten years and one more kid and we're still expats though we've moved countries a few times and I still stay at home. It's not quite what I expected to happen when I was in college or doing my master's or my initial years in the workforce. But do I have regrets? No. Life has been good. Even though we are expats it sounds more exotic than it really is and most of my daily activities are similar to what has already been described on here by other SAHMs. I run the house, prepare the meals, keep everyone's lives in working order, plan the vacations, manage (remotely) our rental property in the US and I am also involved with the family finances. DH makes the money but he's happy to leave the investments to me. In our case, it's also quite helpful having a SAHM to sort out all the little bureaucratic hurdles of being an expat. I also volunteer and I have a good social life with other families and play tennis frequently.

We will return to the US someday and I don't really have plans to return to work, although I also won't rule it out either. I'm actually quite happy being a SAHM and I don't base my self worth on going to an office every day and pushing paper around. I'm very, very happy for those who work and I'm thrilled it's not the 1950s with its conformist expectations for women. But I am also very happy with my life.

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The one thing happy SAHMs that I know have in common is no matter how intelligent or well educated, they don't have a strong professional drive.[/quote]

Well, speaking only for myself, I would say that's partially true.  That is, when I had children, I had zero desire to continue working as my focus was on my children.  I like to put all my energies into one thing and do that one thing very well, rather than spread myself thin trying to be all things to all people.  So, that's what I did - and I absolutely loved being home with my kids.  Now that they're older, I'm feeling more of that "professional drive" you mentioned.  Which is why I now work PT; just the right balance for me at this time in my life.  Perhaps when they're in college, I'll ramp up to FT - or not.  That's the beauty of making choices which work for you and your family at different stages of life. [/quote]

You don't have a strong professional drive if you're happy working PT.[/quote]

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