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[quote=Anonymous]With two high powered attys as parents there are a couple of choices:

1.  One parent could scale back either by reducing hours or going in house or gov.   That seems to be the most common approach.

2.  With those high salaries, you could hire another nanny or extend the hours of the current nanny.  If you want to work from sun up til sundown on legal stuff, then someone needs to be more available for the kids.

3.  one person does the out-of-house work and one person does the in-house work (i.e. stays at home mainly).

I'm guessing the 3rd option isn't for you, OP.  No judgment on that.  I have a 13 (almost 14 yr old).  Let me tell you -- the sass and resentment only gets greater as they get older!  So, you are just going to be dealing with a crabby teen for awhile -- especially if you have two more in the pipeline.  Some of that is unavoidable.  What IS avoidable is feeling guilty -- if you know you are doing the best that a parent can do, then you won't feel so guilty when your teen is resentful/sassy/ungrateful.  Given your current schedules, I think you have reason to feel guilty.

And then, on top of the normal sassy teen stuff, your teen who feels unimportant may start doing "extra" things to get your attention (i.e. drugs, drinking, sexting, sex, shoplifting).  Fun times!  You'll need to find some time in your schedules to deal with the police, the counselors, the abortion clinic, the STD clinic or the eating disorder clinic.

The bottom line is that the current dynamic is out of whack.  It will stay out of balance until you do something different.  How bad do you want it to get before you do something different?  [/quote]

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