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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]High libido man here, married to a low libido woman.  I don't think OP is being unreasonable.

As long as she and her DH understand when she isn't going to receptive to sex, it's fine.  My wife is same as OP.  Never approach her after she has been with kids all day.  Never.

Solution: I take care of myself at the hotel, I leave zero sexual energy for her.  I can go out, flirt with my co-workers, feel like a sexual person.  By the time I get back, my DW might as well be a man to me.

I know the one day a week it will happen, and I can look forward to that day.

My DW is fantastic outside of the bedroom.  It works for now, if it doesn't work in the future, it's not like I don't have other options.[/quote]

Good for you.  See, guys?  One man here understands how to jerk off.  Now if only the rest of you duds could figure it out.  You'd make your lives  hell of a lot easier [/quote]

[b]Who wants  to be resigned to having sex only once a week the rest of their marriages, and never in response to spontaneous desire?[/b][/quote]

PP who you are responding to.  I am largely resigned to once a week sex, and that if sex is going to happen, it's almost 100% on me.  Of course, I am not thrilled with this.  But, perspective.  It's better than sexless, and if the 1x per week is decent, its' doable.  Also, my DW is really a superstar in other facets of our marriage.  I can dwell on the negative or be grateful for the positive.

Like I said, I am not trapped.  If it gets to the point where the lack of sex and intimacy outweigh the benefits of marriage,  I can leave.  I will be absolutely fine single, in the dating market.  I could have an affair, but having BTDT it's not all it's cracked up to be.

Marriage is a compromise.  If your goal in getting married was to ensure passionate sex forever, you are looking at the wrong institution.  If you are getting married thinking your spouse has no right to your body, you are basically condoning an affair.

To those spewing venom (you have no right to sleep with me, I will turn you in for a younger model), all I can say is an eye for an eye leaves the whole family blind.[/quote]

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