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The entire family now includes the half-sibling and the half-sibling's mother.  You are preserving a false little fantasy world, not the family. [/quote]
Don't be silly.  Families are shaped by choices, not genes.  Look in the family forum and count the people who have "estranged" family members.  Then poll the second wives and see if they consider the first wife of their husband (wife, not AP!) to be the member of the family.  I will be shocked if they say yes.  [/quote]

They are wrong. So are you.

The children of the marriage have a half-sibling that you are advocating abandoning.  That is incredibly psychologically damaging for all of the children. If you can abandon one child, why not all of them?

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This scenario has no options where children AREN'T damaged, only options with degrees of damage. If the choice is to damage children by divorce or by absence of half-sibling, it's not wrong to choose #2.

I also think you are rather reaching when you say children of marriage are INCREDIBLY damaged by absence of half-siblings.  This is merely an anecdote, but when I was 13, I found out my mom was my dad's second wife, and that his first marriage produced a son.  I've never met him, and it never really occurred to me that I should.  Meh. I mean, we all have family members somewhere that we never see, so what's with the compulsion to have a relationship with EVERY single one of them? [/quote]

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