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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you don't understand or recognize that there is a moral dilemma over Mary's sudden precarious position due to her mother leaving the family home away from her (the same house where Mary has lived in for decades, apparently), then I'm not quite sure what there is to tell you. There's a certain stubbornness and even selfishness not to cue in on that plenty of posters on here have spelled out the challenges facing Mary and the peculiarities of Thelma's will. Like it or not, Thelma allowed Mary to become dependent and this is pulling the rug from underneath a middle aged woman with limited means or abilities. Telling Mary not to count her chicks before they hatch is not the same as being upfront that she wouldn't inherit the house, something Thelma should have done from the get-go. Your godmother / great aunt did her daughter an enormous disservice. Mary risks being homeless, becoming dependent on welfare, and no, 100,000 really isn't enough to provide Mary with stability. Half the house's proceeds will go much further for Mary. It will allow her to buy a modest condo and still have a bit of a cushion for her old age.

Mary's situation is different from Roy, who according to you already knew he wouldn't inherit the house and knew not to expect much from his mother's estate. And he is also successful with his own assets.

If the house is genuinely yours then you are legally free to do whatever you want with it. But if you have a conscience, I hope you will be a little generous to Mary (while still inheriting a substantial sum from Thelma's estate).

As it is, I say this solely based on what you have told us, and I agree with other sentiments that there's more to the story we aren't being told.

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3. As much as I don't want to leave Mary without a home, why is it the "moral" thing to split the proceeds of the house with her? Not arguing, just wondering. What's to stop Roy from saying he wants a cut too? [/quote][/quote]

OP, all of this is Mary's problem. It's not yours. Focus on school, being a homeowner, and living your life. Mary had 50 years to get her act together. She CHOSE NOT to. That is HER fault. That is why there is welfare. So that tax payers, who decided that they would work and contribute to society can take care of the Mary's of the world who were too good to work and now find themselves in a "precarious" situation because they didn't have the foresight to see what the future was going to look like once mommy dearest passed away and wasn't footing the life bill anymore. There is no MORAL issue. Mary made bad choices. Mary is in a precarious situation. This is Mary's problem.

So typical, a person spends their whole life making bad decisions, and instead of taking responsibility for it, decides to put the burden of those bad choices on a kid.[/quote]

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