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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just wanted to thank everyone for weighing in with their opinions and ideas. We are slowly transitioning Chanel to Nelly. We will leave Chanel as her first name. We spoke with a child psychologist about Champagne. She actually asked if we minded if she spoke with some of her colleagues about it to brainstorm. She told us that as a parent her personal gut instinct was to protect her child at all costs, so change the name. But as a doctor who saw a little girl attached to her name it would cause a lot of problems. That's what made her conflicted. What she came back with was that we need to "own" the name, and let changing it be Champagne's request/decision. She also cautioned that when people question her name in front of her, we can not say "She's adopted and her birth mother chose her name" or anything like that, because Champagne will see that as us blaming her mother for her getting negative attention. So Dh and I have to really own the name too. So. We have a daughter. And her name is Champagne.  :? [/quote]

As much as I dislike the name, I was happy to read this!  :D  She needs parents who will stand up for her and everything she comes with, including her name!

My next thought would be how to bring up changing the name in a gentle way once she's older. I guess you can handle that when the time comes.

Congrats on your new additions!! I honestly think that after you get used to the names you won't even think about it, kinda like you won't even think about how they are your [i]adopted[/i] children. They're just your children and these are their names, no explanation needed.[/quote]

We're not going to bring up changing her name at all. If she brings it up we'll be open to it, but we will not be suggesting the idea in any way. [/quote]

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