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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The boys are not ok on a societal level and I think it’s too widespread to blame them. It has to be a parental issue.

What are areas of improvement you could’ve done in your own parenting of boys upon reflection? [/quote]

1. Parents but especially moms are excusing terrible behavior instead of acknowledging it and addressing it.

2. Boys are given electronic devices earlier and earlier with few if any restrictions.

3. Both parents have to work to make a living these days and are worn out by day to day demands to keep on top of their boys.

4. Boys aren't expected to help around the house the same way girls are so they are unprepared for the real world.

5. Sport culture is toxic and it starts early. Boys aren't allowed to just enjoy playing anymore, they have to be the best. If they aren't the best then they are sidelined by the coaches and teammates in the name of winning. Many end up leaving sports while still young because of this nonsense and end up on video games or less helpful distractions like the manosphere.

5. Single parent households make it hard for the custodial parent to parent effectively because that parent is busy meeting the kids basic needs however they can.

6. Absent dads and male role models is another problem.

7. Changes is education over the past 20 years from the use of the failed Lucy Caulkins reading program adopted by most schools around the country to the replacement of textbooks in favor of random online content for teaching. Boys are far less mature when starting school and these curriculum changes have a bigger and longer impact on them. So many boys graduate nowadays being functionally illiterate.

I could go on and on but the majority of the problems boys face today are found at home.

-Stop giving them access to devices and social media apps.
- Force them to find at least one activity that they enjoy and push them become good in it because that commitment will teach grit. 
- Schedule in library time and playground time whenever possible.
- Connect with teachers at the start of the school year and at least once every two to three weeks with a simple "everything good?" email. 
- Share your feelings with your kids and let them share their feelings with you. Encourage boys to cry, get mad, sad, frustrated, disappointed but show them how to handle it.

- Set boundaries and expectations around school, chores, communication, behavior, manners.

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The big one you missed is that moms need to raise their boys to be true feminists.[/quote]

Does being a true feminist include blaming men’s behavior on their mothers?  Just wondering.[/quote]

+1000000000000000[/quote]

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