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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The problem with all these "feelings" that one feels is that if it wasn't a "lucky" sibling, it'd be a lucky cousin or a friend or a friend-of-a-friend. At the end of the day, we do not all get what we want and/or other people have. The real problem for you is to start thinking in terms of some "invisible hand" that gave your sister more than to you ("she's a more deserving or a better person"). Your sister didn't turn your husband into an alcoholic or his family abusive or you having problems to conceive. You need to get out of your victim mentality. Or not and complain in 10 years about more things that go well for your "lucky" sister.[b] If you were Kate Middleton's sister, you'd most likely already be dead from envy, even if she'd had her health setbacks. [/b][/quote]

Ha! I bet Kate Middleton is insanely jealous of her sister.

Her little sister married a super rich aristocrat for love and gets to live her life in luxury and privacy. Kate Middleton was routinely publicly humiliated by her boyfriend throughout her 20’s until she was the last woman standing. Their marriage looks cold and she has to live next door to a pedophile uncle. Her children will live in the same toxic dynamic that resulted in her husband’s estrangement with his only brother and her late mother in law’s death.

Sure, someday she’ll be queen and get to play dress up with real jewels and crowns. (If the monarchy lasts that long)

Pippa is the lucky sister in this scenario — and the only reason Pippa had access to this lifestyle is because of Kate’s connections. Kate’s parents and her siblings are living a life they could never have imagined without Kate’s enduring humiliation and cold marriage. I bet Kate is green with envy. [/quote]

Kate did "win" golden-child status in her family, though, and her mother's laser-focussed attention and Kate and her royal children. Pippa probably resents that, and there's a lot of speculation about why Pippa was in Mustique during Kate's surgery, etc. But yes, Pippa is living her best life now, with her own family, her big country house, and a husband who treats her well. [/quote]

I'm the PP who mentioned the envy of Kate, I actually am not into all the royal drama and just thought that a sibling who becomes a queen is envy-inducing to the majority of women! But you all are correct, Pippa did do very well for herself. Maybe if it's an older sibling who has "good luck", it ends up benefitting the younger siblings. Like Pippa would have never moved in the circles she does if it wasn't for Kate. But if a younger sibling gets "lucky", the older siblings, especially sisters, cannot be happy for them.

As for the OP, as someone mentioned, life is not a zero-sum game. You get what you get and what you sister has is hers. You have to figure out your life regardless. Your major issue is that you couldn't have children: this is something you have to work through. [/quote]

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