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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a colleague with whom I have worked closely for two years.  She has NEVER asked a question about me, and will literally come find me in the morning and begin telling me what she did the night before, or what she is planning to do for the weekend, etc.  I know all about her boyfriends (she is in an "open relationship" and sleeps with lots of men), her kids and their teacher issues and their horrible father, plus all the details about her divorce and ongoing feud with the ex-spouse.

My theory with these people is that they are deeply insecure because they probably can't udnerstand why they can't make or keep close friendships, which drives them to seek out other people to talk to even more desperately.  [/quote]

[b]Why don’t you ever talk about your life? You just let her talk and when it’s your turn you don’t say anything?
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I have a coworker like this. Any questions we ask her get one sentence answers. Very vague answers that don’t allow for any follow up. I’ve noticed no one talks to her now or asks her anything. All of us just assume she’s very private and doesn’t want to talk to us. Sometimes I try very hard and tell her a story about something she’s interested in, but still she doesn’t engage. (For instance about a book I read when I know she’s a big reader) She's a great coworker though. [/quote]

Because I find her irritating and I have no interest in being her friend?  We're colleagues.  We have to communicate because we work together, and I wish this woman would just stick to work related necessities so that we could get things done faster.  I have no desire at this point to engage with her beyond that.

She is well known at work for this (cornering somebody and just talking on and on about herself at the other person).  She has no real friends at work, and this is why.  I am sad for her that she does not have the self awareness to understand this.

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