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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it sounds like you were a victim of domestic abuse. Are you in therapy? I think seeking one-on-one therapy, and in addition a support group,  would provide more productive answers to you than what you'll get in this thread.
There are PPs that are saying you need to own what you did to create this situation. I agree with you this is perhaps too knee jerk judgmental for people that have not lived your experience. However, to move forward in your life, it's valuable for you to understand something about your reactions during the marriage and the divorce proceedings. Not from a "you screwed up" place, but from a "what have I learned about myself from this experience, and how can I make the most positive path forward for myself and my kids?"
When you have a answer to those questions, and you feel good about those answers, you won't fret so much about what you "think" other people are thinking, because they might "think" but you will KNOW.
I hope you can find some peace this holiday season. I know it can be a challenging time for folks with custody challenges. [/quote]
The problem is that she  is not able to convince anyone,  including here sadly, that it was abuse since he was given full custody. She didn't have $$ for a decent lawyer and that's the problem here. [/quote]

Oh I have no trouble believing that. Abusive men get custody all that time. If it wasn't physical abuse I doubt the court would even consider it, and they don't care much about physical either if it's only against the mother.[/quote]

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