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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We simply told them we were having a downsized Christmas now that they were adults. I did this when they were college aged, and our household expenses went up. They agreed and we moved on.

They even enacted a limit on their sibling gifts. One gift around $30. [/quote]

This!  Direct conversation. As for the kid still in college, you can get them what they need apart from the holiday.  Separate conversation.  If you need x,y,z, you can put it in my Amazon cart.

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This is a good approach for handling the fact that the youngest is still in school and not independent, and may have more needs than others. Treat them the same on Christmas morning but help them separately a bit more as you did with older siblings.

But yes, the direct conversation is key. I think a mistake many parents make when their kids become adults is to never address it directly, never discuss how the relationship shifts, etc. That can lead to a lot of resentment and awkwardness. The direct conversation is as much for the parents as it is for the kids, because it forces you to truly acknowledge your kids are grown and your relationship is changing. [/quote]

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