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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 34 year old daughter has struggled with self confidence issues for much of her life. She never finished college due to struggles with depression, anxiety and what I suspect was misuse of one of her medications. Her father and I likely had some part to play in her early failures as I suspect we were both in some denial. She was a mostly B student at a difficult college prep school, yet failed almost all of her college courses.

I recall her coming to use in high school claiming that she wasn’t ready for college, but we both just brushed it aside and felt she was being “difficult.”

Now, here we are all these years later and while she is employed, she only makes $52,000 a year and has never fully reached her potential in life.

She came to my husband the other week and expressed to him how much guilt she holds over her failures and not living up to our expectations.

We still help her pay for things as I don’t think she could support herself without some assistance. She lives with her partner, who recently graduated from med school and prior to that was living in an apartment that she rented from us (we purchased it as an investment property)

I’m struggling to know when enough is enough when it comes to support. We have the means to do it, which is why we still do. She has a job, she’s not living at home and she mostly has her mental health back in order…but financially and career wise she is struggling while watching the girls she went to highschool with in our small town flourish.

I guess I’m not entirely sure what my question is - just seeking to learn from others who maybe have been through something similar

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Well, she can still take classes at community college and earn an associate degree to see if she can get higher education. To be fair, lots of college educated earn as much as she already does. Once her partner starts earning residency pay, their household income would go up but you may need to subsidize a bit for few years until he becomes an attending. A few more years if he goes for fellowship. Good news is that you don't need to leave her an inheritance. They'll be good on their own. For now she is pretty much supporting both of them. [/quote]

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