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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't have to invite the two girls she doesn't like (at that age I would not force a kid to invite kids she actively dislikes) but I would then also not invite the kids in class she neither likes nor dislikes, the neutral kids she's not really actively friends with but doesn't have a problem with. As those kids are also not her friends, they are just classmates.

You can have an all-classmates party, where you invite everyone even the classmates you don't know that well or even find annoying. Or you can have an all-friends party where you just invite your friends. What you should not have is a "no enemies" party where you invite everyone, friend or not, classmate or not, but specifically exclude a small number of people you dislike. Primarily because this will make it very clear to everything that you don't like them, and this is something you need to keep to yourself.

It sounds to me like you need to do a smaller party, stop trying to socially engineer your kids friendships, but also help her understand why she doesn't want to advertise her dislike for these two girls (because it will come back to bite her later).[/quote]

She doesn’t seem to have anything against the two girls in her class, just that they have no relationship. I made my son invite those type of people when he was the same age.

Of the five girls I am trying to add, one girl is the popular mean girl type and if anything, not inviting her will have social impact on DD. DD doesn’t like the mean girl. I know parents well. They are very involved in community. Second not nice girl is the daughter of one of my closest mom friends.

I forced my son to invite but he was fine semi ignoring guests. I told him he had to greet guests and if they didn’t talk at school, they may not come but we should still invite them. This doesn’t seem to work on DD. She is more adamant about not inviting them. [/quote]

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