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[quote=Anonymous]This is a recurring DCUM topic every few months.
Personally, I’m a giver more than taker.  Kids are college & HS now, so far less parental involvement.
I lump into 4 groups
“Eager” giver – always hosting or arranging things.
“I can’t host but will help” giver who plans meet ups at places, give kids rides to events, offers to bring snacks, etc.
“Give & Take –er” – sometimes they host, sometimes they help, sometimes they just drop and run.
“Taker” – never hosts, never helps, just drop & run.
For the eager givers – realize sometimes it is over the top, and that you might be inadvertently setting the bar so high that other people will just stop trying.
Takers – offer to help. Even just a little – “would you like me to bring snacks? Can I pick Larlo up along the way since I’m driving by his neighborhood?”
You do you.  Don’t resent the takers – either accept they are takers & keep inviting or simply drop them off the list of people you invite. I know – it is hard when your kids are good friends.
I don’t view this as transactional – I think in healthy friendships there should be both give & take. If there is never any reciprocation at any level (e.g. – offering to bring snacks or drive), I can see why someone will start thinking the friendship is lopsided and resent the takers.[/quote]

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