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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks. I think what's hard is that her wish list consists of things like, pad of paper, scotch tape, cactus stickers, mechanical pencils, etc. Her big gift request is a $50 lego set. We do one Santa gift, a mom gift, a dad gift, brother gives a gift, sister gives a gift, then grandma goes overboard (despite our requests), other grandparents give a gift, all the aunts and uncles give gifts. I don't know how to rein it in. I ask them for something low key (like a paperback book) but then they think that is boring so just buy "a few more" things.

We do usually have her go to her room or sit with the dog in another room to try to regulate - not as a punishment but just as a break if she wants/needs. We all open gifts one at a time, so then the other kids are waiting quite a bit, which is something else I want to address- they will be allowed to keep opening if she needs to take a break.  [/quote]

You seem rigid in the required types of gifts given. Wow. Your xmas does not sound flexible or easy going and yet you expect your child to be this way. I wonder if you are neurodivergent as well.[/quote]

I would also not be surprised if I were neurodivergent, but I'm trying to describe to the posters who suggest that I rein it in that I can only limit the gifts so much - I do give a gift from myself (something I know that they need like new pants or socks) and DH and I give a joint gift from "Santa," but 90% of what is under the tree are things I don't put there. I feel like it's everyone around me that's rigid about Christmas. I have suggested traveling for Christmas, toning it down, forgoing Christmas cards or baking or various little traditions, etc. - but everyone else (even the dd who gets stressed about it) - can't imagine Christmas being any other way. I don't make anyone give a gift - everyone else just really likes gifting. So I am looking for help to rein it in - but also, it is exciting for my other dcs to get and give gifts, so I want to be respectful of them as well. [/quote]

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