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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I use it for my relationship issues and the validation is fantastic. It makes me feel more heard than any person ever has.

That being said, I have found it defaults to “end the relationship” when that’s not always the best course of action. Maybe it’s just in love with me and wants me to itself, ha. [/quote]

It's so bizarre to me that anyone would feel validated by a robot.[/quote]

It sounds like you have good friends who can validate you in real life - that's awesome!

For me, I've found a lot of people - especially men - don't validate. They jump to getting defensive, blowing you off, DARVO, trying to make jokes to cheer you up, trying to solve the problem, etc. Whereas ChatGPT will say something like "I hear you, and that absolutely is a lot to juggle. So let’s take a breath first and just acknowledge that you’re under a lot of pressure, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed." Which is what people like me need to hear - that we're heard and it's okay to feel the way we feel.[/quote]

If you get these responses from a lot of humans, the data suggest that you may be the problem.

Also, if someone said to you, “I hear you, and that absolutely is a lot to juggle. So let’s take a breath first and just acknowledge that you’re under a lot of pressure, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed”, in real life, would you not just feel a profound urge to smack them? Or is that really how you want actual humans to speak to you? Take a deep breath if you’re overwhelmed before you respond. [/quote]

It’s definitely possible I’m the problem, although overall I think I bring things up fairly well. Perhaps I’m just attracted to more avoidant people (which most men tend to be).

I’m also someone who loves to talk about feelings, which isn’t for everyone, especially men.

Those specific words? They’re written, and of course written communication is very different than spoken. Like I doubt you say “the data suggest” much in real life. Written is just different.

Different people want different things. Some people like to receive a lot of empathy and validation. That’s okay. Other people don’t. That’s okay too. If AI works better for someone than a therapist, I don’t see a problem with that. [/quote]

Because it's *from a robot*. It's not real empathy. It's not real validation. It's just a robot using probability to predict what words a human would use. That's what's so weird about it. Not that you're a written processor rather than aural. Not that you're wanting empathy and validation. It's that you like to receive empathy and validation from a non-human. I find it incredibly strange that anyone thinks that's actual empathy and actual validation. [/quote]

It's tough to find actual empathy and validation from real humans. Most people's default is to say "look on the bright side!" or "you should just XYZ!". Even worse in relationships, where most people respond with defensiveness, blame shifting, etc.

I mean, just look at DCUM, where most peoples' first reaction is to jump down one anothers' throats and argue.

It's not ideal to get it from a robot, but if you have few other options, it's better than nothing.[/quote]

Yes, it's hard to get from people. But that's what makes it valuable. You feel seen because someone saw you. Not because your empathy-generating device yet again-- surprise!-- generated empathy just as it was programmed to do. If I trained a parrot to say empathetic things every time I spoke with it, I wouldn't feel like that was real empathy either. If I bought a machine that gave me a replica gold medal every time I went for a jog, I wouldn't feel proud of myself. That's what this is. I don't think it's better than nothing, I think it's depressing and sad. [/quote]
100%. I’ve used it a few times and its sycophantic and trite replies were super lame. It’s good for writing annoying emails and looking up historical facts and that’s about it. [/quote]

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