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[quote=Anonymous]Good lord, the degree to which people are willing to do mental gymnastics to excuse men from the consequences of their own behavior will never cease to amaze me.

Dad is responsible for his own behavior and any consequences to the relationship between himself and his kids as a result of his behavior. Full stop.

Mom is responsible for making the kids available for visitation according to schedule.  She is not responsible for physically forcing a child to visit a parent over that child's objections.

In a situation where the child and parent disagree about visitation agreed to under court order, the Mom has a few choices  - consult with your attorney - 1) getting therapy for the child to help the child express reasons for not wanting to visit, set boundaries, and see if there are mutually agreeable alternatives 2) arranging for family therapy with child and inviting other parent to participate. 3) enabling the child to go back to court to express his/her objection and the reasons for it and asking for a custody modification

I faced a simliar situation where my kids no longer wanted to visit with their dad as much for a variety of reasons.  It was an issue for him to solve with them, not me.  To put the mom in the middle of a father/child conflict is classic psychological triangulation.

To the PP who was angry at your mom for forcing visitation. IME, a child's unwillingness to participate in visitation or custody needs to be really carefully negotiated to avoid bigger court problems or retaliatory physical or financial abuse.  Men who are domestic abusers use the courts, police, child custody/visitation or their financial contribution as a way to continue abuse of the mother.  It's a very tricky problem to negotiate and 20+years ago it was even more difficult. [/quote]

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