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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can’t you call the mother of the girl who’s excluding your daughter and ask her to stop doing that?[/quote]

That's a terrible solution. It doesn't help your daughter learn anything about how to cope with mean girls and rejection, something EVERY youth is likely to face at some point and the earlier they learn how to deal with it, the earlier they can keep honing their skills and learning how to handle the social pressures, learn that Queen Bees and worker bees like her now ex-friends are not really responsing to your DD... whatever made QB exclude her (usually jealousy or feeling she's a threat or just plain old meanness and need to feel "better than") is 95% of the time not actually anything the person on receiving end of QB's exclusion and meanness did.

This isn't about trying to tell QB's parents to reign in their child. Plus, most likely, QB learned these behaviors from her parents, so it wouldn't work anyway.

This is about the hard stage that almost all middle schoolers (and then high schoolers) are in: awkward, non-sensical social situations that hurt, are confusing, feel damning forever, but are what most people the same age go through at some point and are a learning process to get through, survive through, and learn how to thrive.  Learning self-care and how to understand behaviors you don't understand.

Good luck OP, and please don't call the QBs parents, that is a waste of time and not what you want to model for your DD.  Model self care, sympathy and focusing on her own happiness, like all the suggestions here to find new activities outside of school, look for new friends, and find people who make you feel good when you're around them.[/quote]

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