Reply to Not staying with family at thanksgiving

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Not staying with family at thanksgiving "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t believe you are even willing to travel if you have work Wed and Fri! When will YOU get rest Op? Unfortunately I did try to establish boundaries with issues like these with ILs for a very long time and finally ended up not going anymore. My own mom and sister are narcs, but the one thing my mom did was right was make sure we had space and felt welcome when visiting as she wanted to see her grandchildren.

I will never forget when we traveled to ILs and asked that they board the cat if they would not “allow us” to stay at a hotel due to my severe allergy - this cat would climb onto me when I was asleep and my eyes would swell shut. There was no door on the living room where they insisted we sleep on the sofa couch. We happened to come back from the store as we forgot something our first day in town and I saw MIL and FIL sneaking the cat into the house after telling us he was staying with a boarding place for the weekend. We left, with our  2 year old in tow and never stayed over again. MIL told everyone I was lying about my allergy because I was too good to sleep on her sofa. We are estranged now 16 years later. I sure do not miss her 50 year old percolator making chock full ‘o nuts coffee on Thanksgiving despite BIL gifting them a coffee pot and a k cup maker. [/quote]
Oh, I wouldn't stay in a house with a cat even if the cat was boarded while I was there. My allergies go haywire if a cat has even been there. Maybe if I take allergy medicine in advance and there is no carpet in the house and I don't touch any fabric surface, I can last a couple hours before the sneezing starts.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics