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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My STBX has become scary and unpredictable, and has initiated a private custody evaluation of himself while trying to get full custody. For now my kids see him for a small amount of time per week primarily in my hopes that they may one day salvage a relationship with him if his mental health improves and because I have concerns about additional legal action should I stop [b]forcing them to see him.[/b]

STBX announced that he is going to start showing up at small school events and sports events. These aren't anonymous things with 400 people in an auditorium where the kids could slip away without 1:1 contact with him, but things like a small rock band concert with 20 kids performing after school and a reception after, or practice in an indoor volleyball gym with two rows of bleachers in the parent area. The kids are really, really upset about what they see as an invasion of spaces that are safe spaces for them. Right now, I don't have a way to keep STBX from showing up at school events or sports events. He hasn't been at any of their events since July and initially made a lot of excuses about work and then just stopped showing up, so this is a big shift in his behavior and the kids' expectations.

Is there a name for some kind of temporary order that would allow the kids to still have planned visitation with STBX but prevent him from showing up at events that they don't want him to be at? STBX has access to their activity calendars and so I cannot rely on the kids just not telling him about these things, which is what the kids hoped might work and still would not really be legally justified.[/quote]
I understand you fear legal issues but you should not be doing this, My mother made me visit my dad until she couldn't physically force me, Even now we have a very strained relationship because of that.[/quote]

Your mom was right.[/quote] That's a mater of perspective, From my perspective she couldn't have been more wrong and she paid the price for it when i went no contact for nearly 10 years.[/quote]

+1 for your mom doing the right thing. The most important thing a divorced parent can do is support a child's relationship with the other parent. If the custody order said your dad had visitation rights, then your mother was not to be faulted for that.

If you are still "blaming" your mother and even as an adult are being vindictive about it, then you are the one in the wrong.  [/quote]

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