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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My childhood BF’s mom committed suicide when she was 13. Her father remarried 6 months later. It was very scandalous and my parents, who were very good friends with them, cut him off. I was angry about it for many many years until I came to the realization that he was probably scared and at a loss as to how to raise four kids alone. It’s actually given me a different perspective on quick remarriages - some people just don’t know how to be alone or raise kids by themselves.[/quote]

This is a very specific situation where it is understandable that you would sympathetic because he'd experienced a trauma -- not just losing his spouse suddenly but losing them in a traumatic way. You are right he was probably scared and at a loss because he was on his own as a dad and likely struggling to process his own loss.

That is very, very different than someone who remarries quickly after a divorce, which is what this thread is about. Most divorces do not result in you raising kids all by yourself. And yeah, people are scared to be alone. Welcome to being a human. That does not mean it is advisable to MARRY someone as soon as possible. It means you should make sure to stay connected to friends and family, potentially start testing the dating waters, and also, well yeah, get used to being alone sometimes and see how that feels.

I do not think your average recent divorced person should get the same leeway as a widower who has had his entire life turned completely inside out in the span of one day.[/quote]

As the kid in one of these situations- yes over the years I have come to empathize more with why my dad may the choice to remarry months after my mom died. (there was definitely no affair since we had moved to a different state). The issue is that the person who will marry someone with kids who lost their spouse months prior is often not … the most stable of people. [/quote]

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