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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve seen this a lot. You simply want a closer relationship than he wants. He values your relationship but simply doesn’t want the level of closeness and frequency of visits that you do.

Do not write to him! That is completely crazy and will make him pull back more. [/quote]

From what OP describes, he's not making an active choice. He just sounds lazy. If they lived next door he'd probably see her all the time. Hes just not going to make arrangements and plans. Op needs to take a bigger role in that, with SIL if she's amenable. [b]I think there is some childhood baggage here when OP says everything was also catered around his needs. She probably needs to let that go. [/b]Her brother is married with multiple children whole OP is single with one child, so she'll have to be the more flexible one, but it can be done with some effort. I hope OP is not treating this as referendum on how valued she is in the family. [/quote]

If she starts the whole "we need to talk about our childhood" mess that will cause her brother to run away even more. No one wants to hear a lecture from a sibling on their skewed perspective on what happened 20 to 30 years ago, especially once that sibling has done big grown things like have a whole entire baby. Take care of your kid and leave childish things behind.[/quote]

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