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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did your date actually say she had concerns about your history?

Because it seems far more likely that she just didn't vibe with you for whatever reason.  [/quote]

OP here. Yes I'll agree with you we probably didn't vibe. But when I have been on dates before, I always feel like they think there is something wrong with me because I am single no kids never married at this age. I understand it's part of the vetting process, but it's frustrating nevertheless because there is nothing wrong me I just didn't want to settle in my 30s. [/quote]

“Not wanting to settle in my 30s”—what does that mean? Were you expectations unrealistic?

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OP here. But settle I meant getting married having kids. Poor choice of word. I don't have unrealistic expectations. I many not be the most outgoing bubbly guy, but I am an introvert either. I think my issue is that I don't have that spark that can captivate a woman's attention. And this why I was hoping OLD would work for me because with OLD at least the first initial contact is not face to face. Should I get a dating coach? I'm getting kind of desperate and I don't want to be alone anymore because I have a lot to offer. I get my sperm count/mobility checked yearly, I exercise and eat healthy. So I don't know.[/quote]

This is going to sound callous, but the choices you made in your 30’s is now baring out consequences.

[b]Most rational women see the lack of marriage in your thirties as a fear of commitment and self centeredness. And honestly most men in their 40s who never married or had kids usually fit that description. You haven’t shown your ability to care for anyone other than yourself.

Throw in that you admit to being desperate, I’m sure is getting picked up on which is why you aren’t getting anywhere.[/b]

I’d like to give advice and not just criticism, but a person cannot go back in time, so you will need to put in extra effort to prove you have more to offer than a six-pack abs and a high sperm count. [/quote]

DP.  I agree with the above poster. You'd do better saying that you're lonely and want to find "the one" who can make your life a happier place and be a companion on life's journey than say "I'm finally ready to get married and have kids and be conventional now'.

I also bet nobody cares about your sperm count.  Low sperm count is barely even a problem in the horrifying world of infertility treatment (of which I have personal experience).  I hope you're not ever bringing this up...Great that you got it tested...but no need to do it annually.

Also your face matters more than your absurd.  Not to be blunt.  But if you are geeky-looking, the main value of muscles is so you don't look like a stick.[/quote]

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