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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again.

I am talking about one family in particular. I generally have an issue about saying No to people, it stems from some dark experiences in my past, I won't go into detail, but basically I am sort of conditioned to please people or think something bad will happen to me or the people I love. I think

***some people sense my weakness and even though they see I too have a full time job and 3 kids - they still treat me like someone who has all the time in the world to spare and help out***

when in fact we are juggling similar demands. It is something I am trying to address, but it is difficult - I can't quite shake this fear that I will set into motion something bad by saying no.[/quote]

Op, they don’t “sense your weakness” or have some magic influence. You say yes all the time, so you’re their first / default person to call on. Why would they bother finding a sitter or calling 10 different families, when chances are high you’ll say yes and they’ll get what they need from you? If you stop being so available, and start saying “no” more often, they’ll start calling also on other people before reaching out to you.

Seriously, think of it from their perspective, if they know someone has 100% acceptance rate, why go elsewhere? You’ve conditioned them to reach out to you.[/quote]

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