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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn’t think it was a big jump going from 3 to 4. I was really good at taking care of babies at that point![/quote] I only have 3 but this is how my friends with 4+ have explained it. Studies show going past 3 gets you back up the happiness and satisfaction curve as a parent. We parents with just 3 are the most stressed, apparently.[/quote] I’ve wondering about those studies. Is it just that the type of person that would consider having four or more kids the type of person that would enjoy having a big family so it’s what makes them happy? I love my two and when I’m around my family member that has five it’s just way too much for me but they seem happy! Anyway, it doesn’t really matter, just something I’ve wondered. Congrats, OP! The car was the big difference for my family member will 4+ kids. Also, travel. The kids are all pretty young so right now they drive places and share one room but that might have to change soon. [/quote] I have 4, and I can see that. I think that part of it is just feeling competent. With your first, you feel like you have no idea what you are doing, then with your second you know a little more. By the time you get to your fourth, you feel like you are really good at taking care of babies and toddlers. Older parents stop telling you what to do and new parents start coming to you with questions. That feels good. I’m talking about caregiving for babies/little kids. Older kids have different and varying needs. I’m not even sure that it’s possible to be a competent parent of a teenager. It’s more of a relationship, like being a good husband/wife or a good son/daughter to your own parents. There are lots of ways to be really bad at it, but I don’t know that anyone is consistently really great. [/quote]
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