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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am friends with a group from my sons school. We get together once a month for lunch or dinner.

So happens we went out for lunch today for our monthly get together. We are a real mix of personalities. Of the 8 of us, 2 are Jewish the rest are mixed religions. We all never bring up politics or religion as an unspoken rule however today the most outspoken of the bunch came out and blasted Israel for what they are doing. She really unloaded, once she got started, she didn't let up (with encouragement from others). We were all kind of surprised and in shock at first. One of the moms (Jewish) is married to a christian husband and is not religious and was one of the first to agree. Then a few others did too. [b]The other Jewish mom however did not take this well. She started to defend whats going on then abruptly got up and said she had to leave early.[/b]

Of all the moms, shes the one I am the least close with but I feel badly for how it went. I want to call her just to see how shes doing because I know it was upsetting to her. Not to say I agree with her at all but shes human and  no doubt felt really outnumbered as the "ringleader" came on really strong. Should I call or leave it alone?[/quote]

It sounds like she's uncomfortable with truth. It might be time for her to wake up to reality, even if it's uncomfortable. It doesn't sound like she was targeted or blamed because she's Jewish (and she should absolutely not be), but ethically, walking away when you feel uncomfortable is a bit childish. There are so many Jews of conscience who abhor what Israel is doing - this isn't a religious thing, it's a political litmus test.

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And there are also many Jews of conscience who have faced “casual antisemitism” many times. Maybe this mom had just had her fill of it and didn’t want to wait to see how it would unfold. Maybe she didn’t want to hear uneducated and un nuanced takes on “Zionists.” Maybe her cousin was killed on 10/7 and the mom was ranting about how all the 10/7 deaths were by the IDF.

if there is one thing being on DCUM has showed me, it is that there is indeed a very easily line to slip over into antisemitism when discussing Israel. I know because I am constantly flagging it so you don’t have to see it. Many progressives quite easily start to talk about “the Jews” in ways that are hard to stomach.

There is zero evidence that the mom who left has some sort of hard line view about Gaza and Israel. the much better inference is that the conversation was too close to the line for her so she left.

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