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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean 59 chasing a 22 yo is gross, but not a predator.

And regarding the cheating, ALL my friends whose parents divorced because of cheating found out about it later. Some were furious and the fact that both parents covered up the cheating landed them in therapy. My best friend was so furious with her one parent for cheating, but equally furious with the other parent for making the cheater not responsible for breaking up her parents and household. This was while we were in college and her parents had divorced in middle school.  I'm not sure what the answer is though and I also don't think you should tell her.

His comeuppance is coming. [/quote]

Disagree, and this sounds made up.  Kids don’t care WHY parents are divorcing, and frankly, emotionally mature parents won’t be confiding in their minor kids and talking about infidelity.  It is YOUR problem not theirs.  And very rare is cheating the only cause of divorce- cheating is a manifestation from a problematic marriage or problems within one person.  It’s a symptom, not a cause.  Marital problems shouldn’t be discussed with children.  My mother used to tell me about my father’s cheating and a child.  Guess who I don’t talk to anymore? [/quote]

I disagree.  I think children want to know why.  They just don't need gory details.  If there's a general marital breakdown, okay, you don't need to get into sex life stuff.

I have a friend whose marriage ended because her husband got a married AP pregnant.

It's difficult to hide that situation and the fundamental immorality from the children of the original marriages.

Unnecessary detail is "when and where and why the baby was conceived".

A factual detail is: "we are getting a divorce because your dad got Mrs. X pregnant".  [/quote]

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