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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unfortunately i think it’s mostly innate personality. [/quote] I was an intense try-hard all throughout school until I got into an elite college. I was motivated because in spite of appearances to the contrary, my home life and family were messed up. I was desperate for external validation and later, for the grades and results that would get me out of my family to anywhere else. In 7th grade back in the 90s I was already planning my HS activities and class schedule to have the strongest possible college application and checking out admissions guides from the library. This was not really a thing back then so I did it all in secret. My DD has zero fire and is intense only about the things she cares about and is totally indifferent to grades even though she is smart. Frankly it’s a relief even though it’s unfamiliar to me. It gives me the sense that she feels safe and secure and doesn’t need external validation.[/quote]
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