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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Things will work out because they have to. You have to figure out how to spend less so you can live on what you make. If/When that changes you can readjust.

But for all of your sake you’ve got to own your part. Was it his unilateral decision to spend so much that your family needed him to have a higher paying job?  Did he alone decide to change jobs?  Is he not working hard enough to find a job?  Likely the answer to some or all of this is no which means that you both are responsible for your current circumstances and you can’t be angry at him.

And you can’t just look to him for the solution. Maybe you need a higher paying job until he finds something. Maybe he needs to train for something new. Maybe you all need to move.

Good luck. I know how devastating this is and I wish you and your family well. And I hope you don’t let this tear your family apart. [/quote]

Thank you.
I actually did not want him to change jobs and asked him not to. Though he was very settled in his career, he was getting antsy I guess with the lack of upward mobility that he had at the time, given how expenses were getting higher. If you have kids, you know that as they start participating in activities and sports   and eating more food, etc, life just gets pricier. [/quote]

PP here. I do know - I have kids and whenever people with little kids get so excited about all of the money they will have after they pay their last daycare bill, I think to myself that they have no idea what’s coming.

We had our financial and job issues before kids. But a few mo the ago I took a lower paying job because I got an offer when my then job was vulnerable due to budget cuts. We both have jobs but have to cut expenses.

Again, wishing you well. And don’t let this destroy you. You need each other now to get through this. [/quote]

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