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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m from one of the groups you mention above, and am raising kids in the US. Many parents I’ve spent time with here just *will not* correct their kids. There’s an enormous spectrum between that and the abuse that the hyperbolic PP above imagines….perhaps just try asking your kids to behave, in a normal voice, and explain to them why. Yes you’ll have to be consistent and ask over several or many occasions. Bc that’s how expectations are set and habits are formed. The TV show on the screen gets a more immediate result but you’ve taught them nothing [/quote]

When my kids were little we would immediately take them out of a restaurant if they were acting up. And yes that sometimes meant one parent staying back and having food packed up and paying the bill while the other put the screaming kid in the car seat. Did it suck at the time? Absolutely. Do I have well behaved kids now? I sure do. They’re not perfect, but they are very well behaved to their teachers and to us, and we have a pretty calm family now. It took years of hard work, and most American families don’t see that as worth it. And no we were never ever abusive, and we have close relationships with our children. American parents let their kids get away with way too much, they dont even see bad behavior as bad behavior. They see their little child as being creative and expressive. My kids are very expressive and creative, but they do it more calmly. And no, it was not because they’re just easy kids. It’s because we were diligent and consistent and our hard work paid off. [/quote]

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