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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Boys at this age run in a big pack and they are very very mean and clannish. If you aren’t in their pack, forget it.

He needs to make friends with girls. This is my go to advice for kids struggling with same sec friendships. Opposite sex friends are more forgiving of each other with social skill deficits, plus having a mixed gender friend group is viewed as very “high school” and has a certain social status in a way, as it’s what older teens do. Girls are very organized and plan things and love having a “boy bsf” it’s a whole thing. [/quote]

This 100 percent [/quote]

NP. My quiet 12 year-old has absolutely been "adopted" by a group of girls and it has been a lifesaver for school hours, but the mixed-gender friendships don't provide much in the way of after-school or weekend hangouts because that's when the girls do sleepovers and other activities that are less amenable to mixed-gender groupings.

I'd say the balance for my kid has been to add one activity with boys who share his interests, so in this case chess. He gets a little self-conscious about it, but they are a nice group of kids and the chess game provides a natural source of conversation. [/quote]

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