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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in a friend group where there is a person I dislike. Group has about a dozen people and has been going for almost 20 years. I’ve never liked her.

Here’s the difference - I do not avoid her or exclude her, nor does she avoid or exclude me. It’s not a secret that I’m not a fan of hers. And obviously at group events, I gravitate to the other people. But also I’m often in conversations with her at stuff - so what?

And yes, I invite her to any group activities I’m planning, including my wedding. I treasure this group, and have no interest in being exclusionary or forcing people to choose sides or anything. This group means a lot to me, I’m not going to mess it up because one person isn’t my cup of tea.

Bottom line: if you value this group and want to remain a part of it, you need to accept that her presence is part of the package, stop skipping stuff she’s going to, and include her in your birthday dinner.

If that doesn’t sound worth it to you, and you’d rather lose the group than spend time with her, then you should think carefully about individuals you care about in the group and work on developing 1:1 relationships with them, because either the group will break up or you will fall out of it. [/quote]

OP said she had a falling out with this person, not that they just weren't her cup of tea. Of course, she's also refused to say what the falling out was about, so who knows how serious it was.[/quote]

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