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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This sounds like a relative of mine who wrote a painfully self-serving memoir. The truth is the same kind of person who could make choices like that is the same kind who would write a tone deaf book, send it to you, and expect you to tell him how much you loved it. He just doesn’t get it. He is limited in awareness of how he affects others. [/quote]

+1. While my dad hasn’t written a memoir, if he did, there would be insane amounts of revisionist history. My dad isn’t NPD. But he is narcissistic and is the hero of his own life story. He is actually incredibly charismatic and people love him (if they are not part of his family). Between the ages of 12 and 16, I used to beg him to start a cult because I knew people would give him lots of money (I now realize that was bizarre, but I recognized the snake oil salesman he was). It was so hard to describe him until Trump’s behavior was out there for people to see. His entire life is spent feeding his own ego. He would never, ever acknowledge the pain he caused his own family.

That said, my sister and I mostly just try to find the humor in the ridiculousness of it all. He remarried a few years ago, and I had to step out during his big speech due to a kid meltdown. When I can back in, I said to my husband “are these the bullet points he hit?” And I was right, it was the speech that pulled together all his stories where he pretends to be self deprecating but really is just tooting his own horn. He is actually deeply insecure and does this nonsense to make him feel better about himself. It is just totally ridiculous.

He is allegedly sober for a year after decades of alcoholism. I also joke with me sister that he will never get to the “making amends” step, because that would require him to acknowledge he isn’t perfect. In the meantime, he likes to tell us how everyone in AA loves him. And they immediately recognized his leadership and wanted him to take over a be a group leader when he has been sober for 30 days — LOLOL. [/quote]

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