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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think this is developmentally appropriate.  It’s great they get along and if your daughter was included in larger hangouts with the team, but this girl “frequently” wanting to hang out with your 13 yrs old daughter is odd.  Doesn’t she have friends in her own grade, if not, why? [/quote]

Actually, what's developmentally inappropriate is the expectation that kids will only socialize with other kids "their own age", generally determined by what grade they are in. Kids of all ages benefit from socializing with kids both older and younger than they are. This used to happen naturally within the context of large extended families/communities, but these days kids relationships are so structured and orchestrated by parents it's much rarer. Kids who are emotionally mature don't balk at the idea of socializing/mentoring kids who are younger than they are. I think it's great.[/quote]

Socializing is a very vague term.  I think it’s fine to socialize and be friends with an age range.  But for a 15 yr old to want to be BFFs and seek  frequently hanging out 1:1 with a 13 yr old seem like it could lead to trouble.  There is a big maturity and developmental difference between 13 and 15. If I were the parent, I would put the breaks on how often they hang out and lean more toward group/team hangouts. [/quote]

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