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[quote=Anonymous]When my kids have an issue I look at my own parenting to see if there's something there I need to change: do I need to model different behavior? Do I need to provide more scaffolding in some area? Do I need to back off in some area?

When my kids do something exceptionally well, if it's related to something where I've put in a certain amount of work (ex: spent a bajillion hours finding the right music teacher and my kid scores a solo), I am glad that my work paid off in their lives. But I don't take personal credit for the achievement, just for what I did to enable it. And just in my head or maybe to DH, not to the kids or anyone else.

But I also do try to realize my kids are themselves and not robots or extensions of me. I could spend a bajillion hours to find the right music teacher, set expectations for appropriate practice, and my kid just love music and have no natural aptitude, and then they're not getting that solo. But as long as I keep providing opportunities they enjoy and doing my best to parent well, I've done my part![/quote]

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