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[quote=Anonymous]Sometimes the cheapest way to pay for something is with money; in this case, finishing the job.

Odds are very good this ends in one of two ways, if you continue with him:

1) More is asked for, again, with more delays (what's the incentive to be fast at this point?), with more holding you hostage because of fear of what he might or might not do in retaliation. It would be worth significant money to me not to be in this trap, and I'd rather spend that money with someone where it was straightforward.

2) Somehow you get him to finish without "helping" him more, just for the amounts you already had expected to pay. he's already resentful. How likely is it that he retaliates in this situation, where you "won" against him? High. Again, worth money to me.

I'd end it now. "We aren't going to be able to do any more work in the foreseeable future, and this will have to be finished another time. I'm sorry, we are grieving [or something], and I can't talk about it." Change locks and passcodes, block number. You might make him mad, but if it's too difficult to retaliate effectively, he's grift onto the next person. Then finish the project with someone in a licensed and bonded company a bit later.

You almost always end up paying. Make the pay to someone who is accountable and professional, not in increasingly uncomfortable installments to someone who offered to do it cheaper. [/quote]

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