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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our upbringing was far from perfect and we grew up in a divorced family, but both my parents really did care about us and tried their best. There were no major problems like physical/emotional/sexual abuse or substance addictions, and we always had our needs met. Yet my siblings have become huge drama queens as adults and pretend that my parents did a bad job when in reality we probably had a better childhood than 85% or more of this country. My siblings have a decent relationship with my parents but don’t respect them and constantly talk s*** behind their backs and it’s always about something really petty. Why are they like this?[/quote]

Let me guess, this is a sister between the ages of 18-21?[/quote]

"we probably had a better childhood than 85% or more of this country"   That quote of yours speaks volumes. You have no clue and you are clearly indicating there were some issues that may have been serious but you minimize them with some made up statistics. The pressure to ignore abuse in families is immense.[/quote]

I posted the demographics query, I didn’t say anything about 85%. This is my second post in the thread.

I do think there has been something in our culture that was a well-intentioned effort to deal with trauma that has nonetheless encouraged adolescents to conflate normal conflict with parents as being “abuse.” Adolescents are already self-centered and often feel wronged by the slightest discipline — this is part of the normal give and take of growing up and trying to assert independence. It’s just that some of the things they’re being told, such as their feelings are valid no matter what, can lead those who are also prone to drama and attention-seeking (also hallmarks of immaturity) to take extreme positions. Simply put: No, not every feeling you have is valid simply because you have it and usually, suffering consequences for bad behavior isn’t tantamount to “abuse.”[/quote]

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