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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you think you would have been able to end it if you had remained in the same department? Would a conscious effort but without reduced proximity have sufficed?

I don't think so. We tried, and would be okay for a little while, keeping the emotional distance and just professional, but then one of us would slip and give the other a look, or we'd have a funny moment and laugh and the wall would drop, feelings would come crushing back in. It's REALLY hard to compartmentalize completely when you have real, visceral feelings for someone that you're trying to overcome. I have been married for 26 years and adore my husband and my life, but I am drawn to my colleague almost at a cellular level, as the woman I am now - he's in a similar situation. We had a friendship built on mutual respect and admiration - it's been just as hard to lose that connection of friendship as the romantic connection - but I respect my husband and our relationship too much to let it continue and had to choose.  When we see each other every few months we still feel the pull to each other, and it's been over a year, so I don't think we could have ended the feelings for each other without the distance.  I'm still trying to sweep them all away.    [/quote]

Thanks for your perspective. If I may ask: was an unsatisfactory sex life with your DH a factor in the development of your crush/EA? If it was unsatisfactory, do you think that you would have fallen for the temptation, or that you would have had a harder time putting the crush behind, even with the distance?[/quote]

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