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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are the kids? With your scenario, at 5+ just tell them to get ready for bed and go to bed. No extras.[/quote]i

Op here- they’re 1,4 and 6. Going to bed isn’t the problem actually. It’s making dinner, getting kids to eat, getting them bathed and entertaining them until bed. I enjoy reading to kids and putting them to bed. Some nights it’s chaos

I really don’t want a spa day on the weekend or time to myself on the weekend. I need to have my nights run smoother. I can’t handle them at night. They’re great during the day but 4-8pm is hell. [/quote]

I'd hire help.  Someone can entertain the 4 & 6 year old while you put the baby down.  A neighborhood teenager is perfect for this because you're in the house if there is a problem.

Also, simplify dinners as much as possible.   If your DH won't help with the kids in the evening,  perhaps he is willing to prep dinner or throw it in the slow cooker in the morning. [/quote]

Neighborhood teenagers don't do this. If you're looking for part time evening help, you're going to be paying upwards of $20/hour just to get someone who is going to keep your kids alive. [/quote]

The ridiculous hire-a-teenager thing around here is nonsense. It isn't 1978. [/quote]

Someone would do it for $20/hr, but then you have the additional mental load/worry about managing a household employee, and what if she calls out or is sick or if her school schedule changes and now she can’t do it and I have to find someone else. Wonder if she could hire a full time nanny with somewhat non-standard hours like 12-8? It’s annoying that it has to come to that because her husband won’t help out though. [/quote]

Oh FT nanny is a good idea - can take care of the baby and get the kids early dinner? Will be expensive but everything OP is putting into her 401k will be community property in the divorce so she may as well put it into making her life better now. [/quote]

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