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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it just me who thinks the DD could just be extremely hurt and not weaponizing silent treatment. Teen girls feel very deeply. What OP said is rational but it's also harsh. I bet the DD only heard the worst parts (you are fat). If she has body dysmorphia then she's probably twisting this in her mind as confirmation that her mother does find her fat and ugly that "do something about it" confirms that it's within her control and therefore a character flaw. (even though it is the opposite of what OP said). I would give her grace and not view this as a power play. OP apologized and I think just needs to give it time. [/quote]

This is how I saw it. The DD already seems to have a very bad, dysmorphic self-image and has probably heard what OP said as "You are fat and ugly." Refusing to go to school would have me worried that she is feeling so much self-disgust that she doesn't want to be seen by anyone, as they will convey reinforcement in her twisted view of how hideous she is. I hope she hasn't taken "If you think you are fat, lose weight" as confirmation that she is indeed fat and has license to develop an eating disorder, because she sounds from OP's description like exactly the type that would be at significant risk. The silent treatment would not be my priority right now. [/quote]

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