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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I have been married for 10 years and have 2 toddlers.

We have frankly never been compatible partners but did love each other at one point.

The love for me has died for many reasons tracing back to strong incompatibility. We have a dead bedroom too but neither cares. DH is low drive and I have become low drive due to long time lack of sex.

I would love to divorce but know what a cluster that would be.

I have resigned to focusing on raising kids, my job, hobbies and friends. I sleep in a separate bedroom, and DH and I split responsibilities for in a way we are both comfortable with.

My question is: How bad is this for kids? I have heard stories about adult children of divorce (which we will obviously do at some point) saying they felt their upbringing was a lie. But what if we never put on a front and just [b]mostly do things with the kids separately[/b]? Would this be so bad?

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This seems logistically difficult to manage, to me. Will the four of you just not eat dinner together during the week? Or any meals on the weekends? How will you handle holidays? Our family of four spends so much time together (and our kids are older, but it's always been this way) that I can't imagine not being in the same room as my husband. Of course we do things separately - we both work and have hobbies that we spend time on, but every single day there are multiple times during that day that we are all together. We both work from home, so that certainly contributes to it, but I can't imagine how weekends would work.[/quote]

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