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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many you give your family member material to work with. Here is a sample of what you have written so far:

- “hire a baby sitter to open unknown packages.” 
- “short of the witness protection program” - <short of> “ name changes to stop the harassment. “

You have to agree that you appear dramatic. Your airing this business on a public forum also points to attention seeking behavior and a need for validation from strangers. The reason something “hurts you” is because her “specificity” may sound like the truth. [/quote]

We can’t even talk about this within our own family because everyone is so ashamed of it. We don’t talk about it with friends because it’s absolutely nuts that a relative does this to us, and I come to a stupid anonymous forum because the crazy person in my life is making me crazy, and I get criticized as attention seeking.

It is no surprise that we have been dealing with this in silence for a decade and that there is such limited support and understanding for families with mental illness given these kinds of comments.  [/quote]

I am the PP above who said I have a mentally ill brother and I ignore his messages.  It's sounding a little like the approach in your family is for people to not only read and listen to these things, but to talk about them??  For example, are you implying that even if you ignored them, someone else in the family would pay attention to what was said and want to dissect it with you?  If that's what's going on, I would suggest being the first person in the family to step up and refuse to even acknowledge the awfulness.  Don't let anyone even talk about it with you.  I would refuse to have any discussion at all that centered on something the mentally ill person said about me.  [/quote]

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