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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, I wouldn't tell them they are ugly. However, if they were unhappy with their looks and it was over something that is objectively a problem that can be fixed (e.g. a nose) I would support it.[/quote]

Agreed, if there were something that my kid couldn't get over, if it were ruining her personality, I might eventually support a minor fix. But the thing is, a lot of people will just fixate on something new. Plastic surgery is psychiatry with a scalpel. In too many cases, it treats a mental illness that can never be cured. So I'd have to be [i]real[/i] sure that any issue was truly about that one physical thing, and not something deeper. A hairy mole, a hooked nose, jug-handle ears... the things that cause children to point.

But hell no, I would never tell a child they're ugly. I would not gaslight someone who hates that wart dragging down their eyelid; they are correct that removing it would be an improvement. Dismissing their feelings with a "you're beautiful just the way you are" remark would cause major cognitive dissonance and would make me untrustworthy.[/quote]

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