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[quote=Anonymous]Ok, I wanted to clarify a few things.

I am not just bored (I know, it's the title of the thread. I'm dumb, I shouldnt have written that post in the middle of the night). I have come to the conclusion that my husband and I have absolutely nothing in common. We don't have the same interests, hobbies, friends.. We don't even like the same foods or tv shows. I value education; he doesn't care for it. He wants children within the next 5 years; I want to wait until I'm closer to 30 (and I'm not even sure I want kids, which he has known from the start). He likes to spend money; I like to save money and despise shopping. I swear, we have so little in common, that I don't know how we've made it work so far. I guess when I was younger, I didn't realize that we had nothing in common. I loved him and that's all I knew.

Also, we have talked about our differences before. I mentioned that in an earlier post. It's difficult to talk about because we both realize that the only reason we are together is because of how much we love each other. He mentioned separation once. I'm not sure if he was serious about it, but I'm beginning to think that maybe we should try it. I just dont know how that works. Do we live together? Do we date other people? Do we still talk?

I wouldn't mind therapy, but I just don't know what it could possibly do for us. We get along just fine. We respect each other, and don't have any real issues. We are just incompatible.

Oh, and the guy I mentioned, he's not the reason I feel this way. I've felt like this for about two years. I just try to push those thoughts out of my head, hoping that our love will be enough. But every time that I meet someone like this guy, it happens. It's happened with my professor. I talk to him and while I don't have a crush on him, I end up feeling awful that I cannot have any sort of deep conversation with my husband.

As for my family, they love him to death so they try to stay out of it. The only one that has ever said anything is my mom. When I went to her about this, she said she saw it coming. In fact, she said she was surprised that I would fall for someone that different from me. She didn't say much back then because our relationship was strained. Plus, she loves my husband as her own son.

To the person that said that he'll make a woman happy but it won't be me, thank you. It hurts to hear it, but it's probably because it's most likely true. He's an amazing person that deserves someone that wants the same future as him.

Thanks again for your responses, even the ones calling me an idiot. I think about all the points you've all made, which is why I'm having such a difficult time. I know I made a commitment to him, so that's why I don't take this lightly. I just wonder if we are doomed to an unhappy marriage if we stay together. 
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