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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's some advice:  Suck it up, Buttercup.

You were not a "baby" when you married.  You were young, perhaps naive, maybe even just outright dumb... but you made your decision.  Deal therewith.

You're bored.  Boo-hoo.  Get a hobby.  Make some new friends.  Don't expect your marriage to be your sole source of pleasure, enjoyment, stimulation, etc.

You claim you've found a nice guy who treats you well and would allegedly make a good dad.  Sounds like a pretty sweet deal to me.  Don't fuck it up by expecting one person to be your perfect match in all categories.  That will never happen.

As to your schoolgirl crush, don't be an idiot.  That's all it is, and all it's likely to ever be.  You're a married woman.  Act like one.[/quote]

+1. You made a commitment, took a vow, and now you're bored and met a guy and want to bail?

It doesn't sound like you're exactly giving the relationship, your marriage, everything you've got. In fact, it doesn't sound like you're working at it at all.

Instead of spending your time with guys who want to explore why you chose to get married so young, maybe you could work on some strategies for saving your marriage.

Good grief.[/quote]

I agree with you guys.  Why are people so quick to divorce?  Seriously, there is no marriage vow that says, "Until I realize I am bored and met this cute, fun guy when I begin to feel bored or lonely."  Who cares that you were young when you married.  You made that decision as an adult.

It sounds like you haven't really even talked to your husband about it at all.  Every marriage requires that spouses talk about some difficult, uncomfortable stuff.  You need to learn how to do that.  If it doesn't work out after you have actually TRIED, then think about divorce.  If there is no abuse and you married under your own free will, you should always contact a therapist before a lawyer.

I do agree with others who say don't get pregnant. You have plenty of time for that, but you need to learn how to communicate with your partner (about the difficult/uncomfortable stuff!) before then.   For example, you can't just tell your husband "I'm bored."  You have to actually tell him that you are bored in the relationship. That's the difference between thinking you are communicating and actually communicating.  [/quote]

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