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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been dating my bf for 8 mos and am now realizing that he is not a planner, at all. He suggested we go away for a weekend and I've asked him twice what he wants to do and it's obvious he's just waiting for me to take the reigns and book everything. Do you have this role in your relationship? I'm not sure I like this dynamic.

He says he likes to be "spontaneous". But if you don't book something in advance, you're not going to get your top choices. He says he'll go along with and be
appreciative if I book, but for himself he just likes to go with the flow.

I've never taken on this role before in relationships. Do yo have this dynamic in your relationship? Does it work?[/quote]

Yuck.

I’ve seen this before. “I’m laid back!”  “I’m spontaneous!”

No, it’s immaturity, poor executive functioning skills, lack of goals, and total local of a plan to achieve any goal.

Dating a tag-along may be fun for awhile, but not marriage material. Can you imagine this BS every time a small or large decision needs to be made? Anything from vacation ideas that make sense to dinner places to where to live to how to manage kids. This guy will avoid decisions and avoid responsibilities.

Bad habit.[/quote]

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