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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How non-planny are we talking about? Like he suggested you go away for the weekend - and now won't commit to a place, a hotel, etc? Or he doesn't want a full itinerary for the weekend?
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OP: he says he still wants to time to read the links I sent him a while ago and won't commit to a hotel, and hasn't offered to book it. I explained that since I'm a single mom, my free time away from my kids is really precious to me and I want to make the most of it. That's why I don't like taking chances with not booking anything in advance.

I'm TOTALLY fine with not having a full itinerary- I don't like that either. It's just that the not taking any initiative or even pitching in to help plan feels like low effort, instead of "spontaneous".[/quote]

Oh gosh, yeah, I can see why you're frustrated. If he even just left this in your hands and just agreeably went along with your hotel and anything else that would be one thing. But asking for links then not making time to read them and help select - that's really frustrating.

Are you up for booking the hotel or is this something you want him to do? How far out are you from actually going on this trip? Do you have a gut sense that this trip isn't actually happening, and that's amping up your frustration?

I really don't blame you for being out of sorts about this. Trips really can highlight what we like and don't like about being with a person.[/quote]

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