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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait, let me get this straight: You’re tired of all the same clothes. You have a spouse that will actually tell his mother to stop. He’s one of these rare DCUM spouses that will actually step in and communicate directly to his mother. And your response is to back off, saying that her feelings will be hurt as if you’re more responsible for managing her feelings than her own son is.

So why in the world are you here? Do you just want to wallow in being a complainer? I know this sounds harsh, but what else could it be? Either take your spouse up on the offer or accept the clothes with zero complaints. You don’t get to dismiss a reasonable solution to your problem AND then keep complaining about the problem. [/quote]

OP here.  I do not want DH to hurt his mother’s feelings.  Was that not clear?  I want to handle it more gently.  No one is wallowing.  [/quote]

No you were very clear that you don’t want to hurt her feelings…which is problematic. First, you don’t trust your husband to be a caring person with his own mother. And second, that’s pretty controlling to think you’re responsible for managing someone else’s feelings. Your MIL will feel whatever she is going to feel. The idea that you have to to tiptoe around her is ridiculous. Trust your spouse to be clear and kind. [/quote]

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