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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]With my ex, I would just start making excuses as to why kids can’t come this week, or can only be there on the weekend, minimizing their time with him. I would also assure him it won’t mean modifications in child support.
If it didn’t help, I would file for custody modification without child support modification (just yet) and see how he reacts. I get a sense that he is worried about money more than anything. [/quote]

Great ideas. Although I think the kids could call themselves and tell him their busy. Or as some have expressed start meeting him for lunch on weekends, but come back home. Last resort is going to court. At those ages it's really up to the kids. [/quote]

You don’t put kids in the middle.  You are refusing for them to go.  You take ownership. Kids don’t get to pick their parents.  [/quote]

At their age, kids do get to decide what kind of relationship they want to have with their parents.

If your child doesn't want to be around you, you can't make him.

If your child hates going to your house, you can't make him feel different.

You can only earn it. [/quote]

No, they don't and its very easy for mom to convince kids that they don't want a relationship with Dad.  You are probably the parent who did this.  If Mom wants to be the only/sole parent, own up to it, go to court and terminate his rights and child support.  If she is taking away his rights/time with the kids, he shouldn't have to pay for them.  If kids get to choose not to see a parent, then the other parent who supports them should take full responsibility or if they are old enough to make adult decisions they  can get a job and support themselves.  [/quote]

No, you don’t get to dodge your financial responsibilities to your MINOR offspring if you’re so unpleasant that they don’t want to be around you.[/quote]

As a minor, you don't get to dictate who your parents are.  If you want to make grown up decisions, then you need to be a grown up and financially support yourself.   This is why kids behave as they do.  They have one parent who encourages this behavior to meet their needs, kids have to pick sides and then those same parents complain why Dad will not pay extras or college as he's not that child's father anymore.  You cannot have it both ways.  If you are choosing to terminate a relationship with a parent or the other parent, then that person terminating the relationship needs to grow up fast and support themselves or the other parent support them.  No more Dad should mean no more money.  [/quote]

Wrong

You pay child support to maintain standard of living for the children until they are over 18.

If they don’t want to see you then honor that, find another custody arrangement/day/meal, or go to court. 
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