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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a boy and a girl.  [b]I'm a little sad that my DD won't have a sister.  I'm a little sad that my DS won't have a brother.  There is ALWAYS some relationship that appears to be missing. [/b] But then you live your life and realize that life isn't always cookie cutter perfect.  [/quote]

+1  There's always a little bit of you that imagines things the other way, and if he always imagined having a son it's perfectly normal to feel sad that won't come to pass.  And once the kid is here this disappointment pales in comparison to the joy of the actual child you get, and you move on.  People try to blow this out of proportion when someone mentions gender disappointment here, but it's not a big deal.[/quote]

+2 this is a fairly common sentiment. I have boy-boy-girl and I can't  tell you how many people have said to me in the past year (including random strangers who see me with all three kids) "You got your girl!"  Maybe it's mainly because of socialization, but there are things that a parent is more likely to get to share with one gender or the other, so I think it's normal to have some preferences and is only rarely going to end up being a problem.

OP, don't count out the sports thing. Your DD2 is only 4 - still plenty of time for an interest in sports to develop. Looking at some of the girls we know, girly girl stuff can totally coexist with stuff that might be more in DH's wheelhouse. Just last week I was watching one of the girls on our street running around in some super girly hot pink ruffle skirt carrying a ginormous nerf rifle! It was awesome.  One of my friends who had a Barbie dreMhouse when we were kids and is now a super fashionable makeup expert went to college on a lacrosse scholarship. [/quote]

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